If we have a fundamental approach on developing and intimate relationship with our acquaintance, we would not be busy trying to figure out ideas that are rarely effective. Dating (social outings or engagements) will give us the advantage we need to maximize the potential of growing with our new acquaintance with the hope of becoming friends, and possibly reaching the goal of arriving to the altar of holy matrimony.
Dating your Acquaintance and Developing Intimacy
It seems that society at large equates sex with intimacy. However, sex is not synonymous with intimacy. Balanced intimacy involves developing levels of intimacy in several areas of our lives. By dating your acquaintance you can develop an Intellectual Intimacy by sharing ideas, as you and your acquaintance expand each otherís knowledge base by increasing exposure through traveling to art galleries, museums, historical cities and towns, villages or countries. By visiting gift shops and antique stores, Public libraries have seminars. And civic centerís host many informative events.
Emotional Intimacy is developed as each person takes the risk to share personal feelings, thoughts and experiences with another. The stronger the level of sharing between two people the greater the level of intimacy that will be developed. Can it happen overnight? No! People will not pour out their business on the first or second date. It will take awhile of developing trust in the relationship before secrets are revealed. We should be wise enough to gradually develop this area of intimacy because the information may be ultra sensitive as emotional scars and wounds are touched by the words of confession that seeks to receive sympathy and a value of understanding by the hearer.
When youíre at the park surrounded by seesaws, swings, monkey bars, and sandboxes; Or at the beach with the volley ball, surf board, or jet- ski; Or on the trails with the mountain bikes; or the theme park with all the thrilling rides and latest attractions Recreational Intimacy will start developing as you enjoy each otherís company during the date.
Another intimacy that can be developed between an acquainted people is work intimacy. It happens when one is willing to offer their time, skill, energy and support on helping renovate, repair or restore a particular part of the home or apartment. Cleaning out the garage is not so bad either. Thereís always a need to paint, maintain and rearrange something somewhere and itís a common task that can be shared with your new acquaintance. It can be fun too. It doesnít have to be a drag. Undertaking community projects like cleaning neighborhood parks, meeting halls and community centers in support of a church or organization demonstrates each otherís interest in charity.
Crisis intimacy is sometime unexpected and automatic when it strikes. Itís immediately develop as a sudden death of a family, friend or pet. It could come through natural disasters when tornados, hurricanes, earthquakes and floods hit. A crisis situation will allow one to consider if genuine intimacy is being develop especially when financial and criminal crisis take place. Will your acquaintance be there expressing their concern and support? Or will they scream and scram? Only time will tell when a crisis hits.
When Jesus Christ becomes the topic of discussion or shared concerns regarding oneís faith and eternal destiny is considered. A search for true meanings of life can motivate an acquainted couple to attend church services and bible studies that will enrich their spiritual lives and they develop a spiritual intimacy. Especially if the topic of discussion is the biblical art of dating and relating.
If a practical goal has been set by an acquainted couple to achieve certain levels of intimacy to build their relationship then their efforts will prove to be effective. I personally did not see things this way when I was a teen and my neighborhood was a poor example of modeling these principles. Everything that I have written so far on this site is a mind-blowing spiritual awakening revelation to the churches I share this with. That proves that we need more insight and more teaching in our churches and abroad about the topic of dating and relating.
So letís get intimate with a balanced view of spiritual, emotional, intellectual, and recreational activities through crisis situations and a desire to work. Remember the aim is to make it to the friendship level.
God bless you.