ďAnd unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband: but if she depart let her remain unmarried, or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wifeĒ. 1 Corinthians 7:10-11
Paul gives instruction to the church. He makes it clear that the commandment given is not of himself, but of the Lord. He encourages the wife to not leave her husband in spite of problems in the marriage. Things can be worked out if you have faith that they can be. A Christian man and woman that is having difficulties in their marriage should be able to go to the word of God, identify the issue causing the friction, and apply Godís solution to reestablish the joy in that relationship.
However, there may be extreme circumstances that will provoke a woman to depart from her husband. Even in this, God commands that she not marry a different man. During the time of separation the woman should get counsel and support, but that encouragement should be from someone that clearly stands on 1 Corinthians 7:10-11. After there has been time for thought and guidance, she should seek to be reconciled to her husband. This is what pleases God.
God commands men to not ďput away their wivesĒ.Disobeying what the word of God tells us is unrighteousness, and all unrighteousness is sin unto death (1 John 5:17).
We have the greater responsibility in maintaining the marriage. God placed us in the lead position in the family, and that means failures are our fault! Somewhere down the line we didnít do something right. We have to, in the right spirit, seriously examine the situation. Then, we must determine in our hearts that we will do what is necessary to allow God to fix the thing that is broken. Humbleness, patience, and a zeal for peace will bring favor back into a suffering marriage. But, it must start at the head, which is man.
God is never please when a divorce happens. His will is that marriages on the verge of separation would dive into the refreshing waters of His word.
Letís not make excuses to depart from our spouses and give Satan the advantage over us. Donít give place to the enemy. He only seeks to destroy what God has established.
Cherish your marriage. Respect, love, and honor one another. Doing this will add stability in the relationship, encourage others in the church, and douse all the flames of confusion.