1 Now it came to pass, afterward, that He went through every city and village, preaching and bringing the glad tidings of the kingdom of God. And the twelve were with Him,
2 and certain women who had been healed of evil spirits and infirmities-- Mary called Magdalene, out of whom had come seven demons,
3 and Joanna the wife of Chuza, Herod's steward, and Susanna, and many others who provided for Him from their substance.
4 And when a great multitude had gathered, and they had come to Him from every city, He spoke by a parable:
5 "A sower went out to sow his seed. And as he sowed, some fell by the wayside; and it was trampled down, and the birds of the air devoured it.
6 "Some fell on rock; and as soon as it sprang up, it withered away because it lacked moisture.
7 "And some fell among thorns, and the thorns sprang up with it and choked it.
8 "But others fell on good ground, sprang up, and yielded a crop a hundredfold." When He had said these things He cried, "He who has ears to hear, let him hear!"
9 Then His disciples asked Him, saying, "What does this parable mean?"
10 And He said, "To you it has been given to know the mysteries of the kingdom of God, but to the rest it is given in parables, that 'Seeing they may not see, and hearing they may not understand.'
11 "Now the parable is this: The seed is the word of God.
I was at a pastor’s retreat this weekend and heard a sermon about the sower of seeds. As soon as the pastor spoke, I begin to think of the seed sower’s wife. Granted, the story is only a parable and not based on any known individual, but I would like to believe the sower had a wife and children at home. It is the hopeless romantic in me.
What was she doing while he was sowing seeds? Was she at home sowing her own seeds? Was she beside him, dragging along a heavy satchel of seeds? Was she at home preparing the house for his return? Maybe she had a nice cold drink for him. What if she was waiting on him to arrive home so he could watch the children? I am sure she must have had a rough day cooking and cleaning and chasing children all day. What if she expected her man to come in and take over for her?
After seeing the meaning of the parable, I would like to hope she was not simply waiting for her seed sower to return so she could start complaining about her day. Little Johnny had been horrible. She couldn’t keep the dirt out of the house. She was tired of walking to the well to get water. She had to make all that bread from scratch. Can you imagine a man … dirty, tired and achy … walking in to face a woman who does nothing but complain? Worse, what if she had done nothing all day? He had been out sowing seeds, maybe to plant grain for bread, yet when he arrives home there is no fresh baked bread. The poor man, if hungry enough, would have to begin supper for his family.
Sadly, there are women who are like this. They complain and moan about their husband’s seed planting. Or worse, they expect him to work hard and then come home to work some more. They believe they are entitled to this type of catering. They do not care if their husband has been busy all day and he, too, had a rough day. They expect him to come home and immediately begin working again. Not a pretty picture.
Take this from the physical realm to the spiritual. Your husband has been out sowing the Word of God all day. He comes home tired and exhausted. Do you really think it’s easy? I am sure there were some who rejected him, spat on him or cursed him. Some of them were willing to hear the Word and questioned your husband for more information. Maybe he was moving rocks so the seed would land on good ground. Here he comes, the love of your life. He walks through the door exhausted, but so joyful to be home with his family. What faces him now? Is it an excited family, so glad to see their husband and father, the man of God who has been out planting seeds? Or does he face a bitter and hateful family? "Where have you been?" "Why were you at the Johnson’s so long?" "I doubt that man will ever find God." "Do you really think playing golf with Joe will bring him to Christ." "What? You’re going out again?" "What about the children and me? We need you too." The responses could go on forever. Maybe you already have a few more to add from your personal repertoire.
What do you think God wants from a seed sower’s wife? I doubt it is a woman full of resentment and harsh words. A woman such as that will only tear down her husband and her family.
Proverbs 14:1 " The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish pulls it down with her hands."
And my personal favorite,
Proverbs 21:9 "Better to dwell in a corner of a housetop, then in a house shared with a contentious woman."
Seems to me, God has a pretty clear message of what He expects from wives.
Maybe the seed sower’s wife was there beside him. Maybe she was the one that cleared the rocks to make way for the seed. She toiled in the sun right there beside her husband. They are a team working (pressing) toward the goal. Imagine the joy her husband must feel, knowing he does not bear this burden of seed sowing alone. He has his beautiful bride right there beside him.
Down the road another seed sower’s wife is home planting seeds around the house. She is tilling the ground and planting seeds close by. The sower feels confident and knows his children are hearing the Word of God while he plants in the field. She is preparing the future sowers for the hard work ahead of them. She has them out there beside her, planting the small rows beside the house.
Maybe in town there is a sower who does not have a garden nearby, but makes her seed sower feel like king of his castle after a hard day’s work. He is achy and tired; but, when he arrives home, his wife is there to massage his back, fix him a cool drink and help when the harvest comes in. Maybe she just walks to the well to get the water that is needed to water the seeds.
The illustrations are endless, but you can see clearly that the seed sower needs a woman of God there beside him, sowing seeds beside him, sowing seeds in her home and ministering to his needs. The plans of God are not for the wife to be angry, rebellious or harsh. She needs to be there, working hard, just as her seed sower is.
Now what about the single woman?
Luke 8:2,3 "and certain women who had been healed of evil spirits and infirmities—Mary called Magdalene, out of whom had come seven demons, and Joanna the wife of Chitza, Herod’s steward and Susanna and many others who provided for Him from their substance."
Even a single woman can minister. Maybe she can help clear rocks for the pastor. He might need a secretary to type his notes. If you stop and think a moment, there are many areas in which a single woman can minister to seed sowers.
What about you? What kind of wife are you? Does your seed sower come home knowing he will be refreshed; or does he dread doing God’s will, knowing his wife will be there to tear him down? Do you need to reconsider your role as his wife? More importantly, do you need to spend some time with your heavenly Father? If you haven’t seen your seed sower lately, check the rooftop
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