Anger is the opposite of LOVE. Anger is committed when someone attack us like a lion. Take for example that someone just insults us in a very disgraceful manner. That time you will feel so much anger caused by the insult. No one on the whole earth will take something like that.
A disgraceful insult can come to us like an arrow and we can feel it piercing through our soul especially if we dont do anything to deserve it.
The person that insults us may be a healthy looking person even though no healthy person just put a curse on somebody else. As a result we become angry because we are insulted out of no where for some reason.
We dont do anything wrong and now we feel so much anger inside us. What do we need to do in response to that? The lord said, "Dont worry about anything that comes to you. It will be processed and latter on it will be excluded from you body."
Now this looks like Jesus is talking about food. But he is talking about anything that comes to us. It could be evil thoughts, evil dreams, contaminated ideas, and unresolved issues.
It also included anything comes from external being. It could be an insult from somebody else. It could be a provocation to lie or to agree to a sinful idea. So he said we should not to worry about it.
Instead be careful what comes out from us. It could be a perverse speech. It could be a lie or an insult or arrogance. It could be our own idea to do something bad. That will make us unworthy to worship the lord almighty in his temple.
Therefore whenever someone insults us, let us make sure that we already make a choice. Whether we go ahead and spit our own venom in to the other persons body. Or perhaps we want to take it to the lord so that he can heal our soul and give us the grace we need to worship him with a pure heart.
The funny thing about this is that we dont know when this will happen. And also people even our own friends will encourage us to respond with insult.
Why? Because once people see that we are kind of silly person who accepts insults and take no action, they wont hesitate to do their own versions too. It is like a beautiful place turn in to a dumpster.
After all what make it a dumpster is the fact that when the first person comes and put its garbage, no one say, "No! No way!"
One of the reasons God has LOVED David was when he was going through a lot of problems after the incident with Uriahs wife, one person insult David in front of every body but he didnt pay him back.
King David could have made him killed since he has the power to do that but he did not. Instead he said, "May be God seeing all my misery and pain will have mercy on me."
David understands that nothing comes to him whether it is good or bad unless the lord allowed it. He also used it as a wonderful opportunity to please God one more time.
What amazes me most is when David waited all his life and asked Solomon, his son, to do justice regarding this person. He didnt even told Solomon to kill this person, but he said,
"You know what to do with him. You have wisdom and do to him according to your wisdom."
So he was telling him to do what God told him to do concerning that person. However David didnt dare to do any harm to this person as he fears the lord and obey his commandments.
Paul while advising timothy regarding disrespectful person around him by saying,
"Earn respect by knowing what to speak in the beginning"
Most of the disrespect comes from our silly talk and un-thoughtful actions. It is a reward for our foolishness. Avoid foolishness and learn wisdom. Let us Fear God and stay away from anything that may cause us harm.
The issue of Self-respect:
Our interaction with others has to be mainly based on humility and self respect.
While we talk and do certain things, we might put our selves in a position where others might respect us or not.
Also we may not put enough self respect even to our selves. And many may not provide with the self respect that we deprive of our selves. The humility part is also necessary to establish health relationship with others and God.
Self respect is the basic thing to deliver our message to others. It helps us to express our feelings and to be heard and to be acknowledged in other persons world. With out self respect we will loose all the dignity for our selves because of the world. With out dignity, we will loose the self respect for our selves because of our own fault.
Self respect can be built from inside and also we should protect it from the outside world. The main issue is to bring humility with out loosing self-respect. What if somebody just break the boundary and just insult us. Isnt that something that can make us lower our selves? Well that is the main issue of this lesson.
We have seen Jesus in the scriptures where he was teaching effectively because of the image he already has for himself. He even passed through a point in time where he was tested to loose self-respect and his faith.
I have had many experience in the past that makes me loose self confidence. I have gone out for battle where I totally depend on my self to win the battle. But I totally messed up and embarrassed. I not only fail but also loose confidence because of that.
Does self-respect even necessary at all? The word self is not something we find good at all in the Bible. But still it is all we have got under the earth with God by our side. It is something all the issue of life derives.
If something is wrong there, everything will be lost. That is why we need to have the proper definition of self.
Self but not selfishness means the identity of an individual. Where is the true identity found in our lives? It is in the idea of self and who we are in Christ Jesus.
We are redeemed from our selfishness nature to bring forth glory to Gods kingdom. Do you ever ask yourself the question, "who am I?" We need to find who we are in Gods kingdom. So every element of life should be taught in terms of the true nature our selves and our relationship with God. Let us be humble, be patient, be kind, be loving while we also hold on to our own true nature.
When Jesus washed the feet of the disciples, it was not his intention to lose self respect. But first of all he wants to teach humility and second he wants them to do the same thing to others including others. He teaches how to be in good service to others and how to be a humble servant for God.
Most of all remember the summery of the laws of God: LOVE your neighbor as you LOVE yourself. This means we should also expect the same kind of respect from others as we showed to them.
We thank you lord for teaching us the issue of self respect with out being arrogant and irritation to others. Please help us not to be easily offended where others knowingly or unknowingly make a mistake of disrespecting us. We already understand LOVE is strong and can defeat any kind of anger and disappointment.