How do we really make the best of a bad situation?
How do we begin to heal after a life-wrenching experience?
How do we have peace in what seems to threaten the life out of us?
Situations that weave a web so tight that it is tangled all around us which makes it practically difficult to find a way of escape.
Often when we get stuck in circumstances of this nature, each one has a different reaction mode, some totally give up and do that which is drastic and dangerous, some others calm down and go into freeze mode whilst some totally pretend it is not real or simply breakdown and probably scream to the highest heights in frustration
Situations that seem to be beyond our control or seem to want to crush, drown and overwhelm us tend to create these type of reactions even in the calmest individual.
Confused and disoriented, people can display the most extreme but what-to-do is to ask, “what to do now, or what next?” instead of , like the proverbial trapped animal looking-for-a-way-out, we try to make a quick life-saving decision(we believe), unfortunately the wrong decision is what we end up making in such in- a- bid-to- ‘escape’ situations,.
We should learn from the Holy Spirit to remain calm, no matter how bad and mind boggling the situation might appear to be and assess the situation at hand properly or logically before we jump to certain conclusions.
In such instances when we do take irrational steps, we find ourselves often regretting the steps or actions that we take or embark upon, words that we speak even inactions because in most cases these are neither fair nor wise.
But then what do we say? We say that we are but only human.
God’s word tells us to always be wise in decision making, be quiet in the physical and in the spirit before we do or say anything but most importantly, seek His Help in all that we do so as to do that which is pleasing unto Him
Different things in life threaten and bombard us in one way or the other as individuals, we must devise means pleasing unto God, think about various ways of handling or dealing with our ‘problems’, but the important question to ask is, WHAT WOULD JESUS DO?
Really, how often do we spontaneously ask the question above?
Is it really easy to patiently wait on God in crisis periods and keep our cool?
EXPERIENCE THEY SAY IS THE BEST TEACHER!
We also hear that it is easy to put forward theories in a situation and declare decisions also asserting solutions in the same breathe while sealing it with drastic judgments when you have never had a similar experience or anything near it to fully understand what the person affected may be going through and why they are reacting the way they are.
But in another scenario, can we actually say in worrisome and critical moments that we are justified to scream and lash out especially at someone (usually people who are close to us and who love us) and spit out a lot of ‘not very nice words’, and that no harm is done or ALL IS WELL?
What happens afterward when the moment and situation have passed? Does time really heal wounds inflicted on the heart? Can it be totally forgiven or forgotten?
God enjoins us to watch our tongue and be careful with its use in the book of James and think before we speak, no matter the situation, that the tongue is a deadly weapon that can cause irreparable destruction.
Extending your pain and worries to as many people as you can inflict these with does not give you peace-of-mind nor does it produce instant solution to the problem at hand rather you risk losing genuine love and causing irreparable damage.
Healing comes from within not from without and when we find ourselves in helpless situations we should learn to SURRENDER ALL!
It is maturity to THINK before we SPEAK to avoid extending hurt and pain whilst also making the best of OUR BAD SITUATION because Jesus is not dead, He has said that He will nether leave nor forsake us and that he will be with us ALL of the time even until the end of time.
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