Our identity is made up of many layers as we grow. Some of those layers are shed over time and others added. Fractured and broken relationships cause wounds in our identity and often warp how we view ourselves. They even warp how others perceive us.
Deeper layers stay constant - we are all sons or daughters, we may be a wife or husband - a mother or father. When these deeper layers are shattered, through dysfunction, abuse, divorce, neglect - a paradigm shift takes place. Much like an earthquake. It shakes, it changes and it can cause havoc.
Isaiah 43:1 speaks to the most deepest layer of all - this is who we really are. God has called us by name. One version uses the word "summoned". God calls out our name. He declares "You are Mine."
Isaiah 43:1 But now, thus says the Lord, who created you, O Jacob, And He who formed you, O Israel: “Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have called you by your name; You are Mine."
God re-writes the layers of our lives as we begin to accept ourselves as being God's. This doesn't change the past, it doesn't change the dysfunction (except our own part in it becomes healthier) but it definitely changes the future.
As we begin to experience truth and healing we begin to realize that there may not be a resolution of our past. Yet we find healthier ways for our past to be used in our future.
A deeper study of this can be found in my book, Soul Care, God's Way available through Faithwriters ebooks.