At first, it took me a lot of courage to even write that title for fear that someone may think itís vain or self-centered to applaud oneself. But this year, I resolve not to care much about what others think of me, as long as I know that what Iím doing glorifies God.
I learned that I am unique, valuable in Godís eyes and grateful for how He made me. It reminds me of a funny quote : ďWhen God made me, He was just showing off.Ē ( Okay, that took me a lot of guts to write that one too, but God doesnít make any junks, right? And Iím a gem, a daughter of The King. Did I hear an Amen?)
King David was not blowing his horn when he wrote in Psalm 139:14 , ď I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.Ē
Iíll be honest, Iím not happy all the time with the person that I am. When Iím physically exhausted and just wanted to be alone, I could be easily annoyed with slight interruption . I can snap easily, and forget to apply whatever Bible verses I memorized . What usually works when this happens, is I will lock myself in my room, take a deep breath and pray. How I wish I can do that more often, if just the Enemy will get out of my way!
I learned from the course Iím taking in Christian Counseling that there are 4 different personality types: the sanguine (popular or the sociable type), the choleric ( powerful, authoritative), the melancholy (who likes perfection and order) and the phlegmatic ( easy going, peaceful ). These personalities are inherited. They can be good or bad, depending on how we use them. Itís interesting to learn these personality types so we will have better understanding of people, and therefore know how difficult to change them. Understanding ourselves according to our personality types will help us accept one another as God made us to be.
I think Iím a combination of melancholy and choleric, yet I can be phlegmatic depending on how Iím feeling at that moment. Before, some peopleís traits used to annoy me: example, when they tend to talk too much and monopolize the conversation, or if someone is a poor listener. It also upsets me when people take for granted what I thought was important like replying to emails or appreciate something Iíve given or done. Now, I have better understanding that everyone is different. High expectations of others can lead to frustrations and disappointments.
Iím happy to be me, no matter what others think. I appreciate the gifts and talents that God bestows upon me, and Iím using them for His glory, and Iím praying I can use them often. I also choose to be happy, to rejoice in the Lord, for He is My Strength.
Gloria... This statement is pure wisdome: "Now, I have better understanding that everyone is different. High expectations of others can lead to frustrations and disappointments." Oh, I understand all too well how that can happen. Overcoming those high expecations would be the solution to so many of our inter-personal problems. How different (in a good way) our relationships would be if we could understand and accept the fact that we all have different personalities and often view life in different ways. We are all God's unique creations and it is wonderful to praise Him for what He has given us and to ALSO accept the other personalities He has created. Thank you for sharing this wisdom. And we all love you for being YOU! God bless you. Love, Peggy