The Bible is the infallible Word of God and it has so much to teach us including relationships between our children/parents. We should seek God above all else when we are facing trials and tribulations. The Bible tells us to "Seek ye frist the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you." (Matthew 6:33). As we seek the kingdom of God, the blessings of the relationship between us and our children/parents will prosper. By seeking God and considering these four steps to pursuing a godly and healthy relationship with your children/parents, I pray that Christ will begin to do a new and wondrous work in the lives of the believers.
1) Parents should clearly state that Christ is the foundation for their relationship with their child. It is very important that both the parent and child seek wisdom and understanding from Christ. Adam Pulaski, author of Biblical Counseling Manual: A Self Counseling Program, better states this foundation in the quote “As you study and follow God's word for your life and the training of your children and decisively put off any reliance on yourself, your background or your upbringing, you will gain the wisdom and direction that you need to be a godly parent. The key is: Get rid of the old self, so that God's light can shine through you.”
2) Parents and children should seek the forgiveness in each other so that God will be pleased. As a result, God will forgive them once they seek His forgiveness. Lehman Strauss puts this plainly, according to Dailychristianquote.com, in the quote “We cannot be right with God when we are wrong with others.” This is explains the scripture Matthew Chapter 6 verse 14 “For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.”
3) Parents and children should study what the Bible has to say about the relationship between a child and his/her parent. Adam Pulaski elaborates on the relationship in this quote “Parents are to teach children to honor and to obey parents because the parents represent God's authority and His standards. As a child honors and obeys parents, he is honoring and obeying God. By honoring God this will guarantee the child's success in life for it is God Who will watch, guard and keep child forever.” This quote is explained from the passages Gal. 3:20 and Eph. 6:2-3.
4) Parents and children should to begin exercise the teachings of the Bible so that God will be pleased. Thus, both parents and their children will have a prosperous relationship. Teach the Bible to your children and take the time out to have devotion with God together. In Insight for Living, Pastor Charles (Chuck) Swindoll best explains this in this quote “Instead, study your children by developing an intimate relationship with each one. Help each child discover his or her road—the path he or she was created to follow. Then ask God to help you make the most of your child’s natural tendencies so that he or she can live in harmony with God’s design. And when maturity comes, his or her success will be a legacy you can enjoy together.”