Generally we communicate on the subjects that we understand best. It may be a positive subject with rallying victory cries; it may be that the subject is one that is seemingly negative.
It pays to take note of the negative feelings and thoughts that we have; not to nurse them and cause them to grow, but rather to discern problems that otherwise we would not see.
Some times writers, authors, write about things they see that are having a positive or negative effect in the culture, conditions that those who are engrossed in living the culture are unable to see. I truly believe that this article is exactly that kind of subject. This is seemingly a negative thought but it must be opened and considered, because it is so destructive to our entire society.
I point a finger at no one, and if I did point a finger it would in many ways be a dirty one. I want to talk about the children in our families and the abandonment of those children, while parents and siblings all live together at the same street address. Families are living together alone.
Let me outline a few things of which I am aware: children are doing without needed clothing, food, and medicine, not because Mom and Dad do not work, and not because Mom and Dad do not make a decent salary. Not all such families live in the slum sections of town. The children do without their needs being provided because Mom and Dad must buy their one to two cartons of cigarettes for each one of them, each week, and of course the recreation drug that makes you chill out, and the beer and booze. Mom and Dad think they love their children. I ask you, “Do they love their children?”
If they do have any emotion toward or for their children, it is far less than they love themselves. So much less that it does not count as love, but at best, obligation.
There are so many negative fallouts from such a sick pair of parents. Yes, they are sick. No healthy person provides their own needs over the children who are depending upon them as parents.
Children are supposed to be loved by their parents, while the parents are thinking of the children as being less than worthy of the most and best available. This is a destructive message to send to a child.
The child then becomes despondent and depressed and disinterested, and they begin to fail in school, and the blind parents keep wondering, “what is the problem anyway?” Because the parent looks bad in this scenario, they accuse the child and rant and rave and threaten, and wonder why things just continue to get worse. It’s because the child has no advocate, no real parents, just two, or maybe only one, selfish and tall baby to call a parent.
When we live together alone at the same street address, with no one talking, no meals or rare meals together; parents coming home exhausted and running to the computer or the television and demanding quiet because “they” need it, there is no world for a child to learn in, nor to find comfort in, and they wither or turn angry and get rebellious.
This is only the tip of the iceberg regarding the sick houses we live in, in our culture, those houses we call “home” and they are not.
There grows an indignant anger in these kinds of parents and the child is always the do-wrong that causes it all. Why do parents expect the children to never make a mistake? They apparently never look into the mirror to really see themselves.
Our children are dying, being raped at home, learning that adults use drugs of all kinds and that adults look out for #1 first, and the #1 is not the child.
Maybe you think this is an unusual or even not a true account of what is happening in our culture; if you do, you are very mistaken. Some of you see yourselves in this account of facts, if you have kept reading this far into the article. I’m asking you, “Do you care?”
My question is what are you going to do about your own home? I’m not asking, “How will you fix the world?” I am asking, “How will you fix the world your children live in and call home?”
I think I should add a post script to this because I did not make my point altogether clear.
For those whose lives and homes are pictured in this text, my question is, "What will you do about it?"
For those who have never seen such a picture, my question is, "Since it does exist, what will you do about it?"
I am mentoring teenage girls and believe me this is the picture of a great percentage of homes, far more than we would like to believe. Could you get involved with the youth in your church? What about the school? Could we all just do something to save the children? They are suffering alone.
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