This is a love letter, to the very special woman in my future... wherever she is out there ...
GENEROSITY: Love of Giving Freely
I love you, wife to be, and I give you my all—freely, willingly, joyfully. Totally, minute-by-minute … today, tomorrow, and forever.
SERVING: Love of Serving You
Jesus taught husbands how to be servant leaders and that is what I want for you. The reward is a wife who wants to serve you in return, and an incredible, loving, passionate marriage.
HUMILITY: Love of Honoring You
Instead of lifting myself up as the priest of the household, I desire to honor you and exalt you as a beautiful and wonderful God-given helper. Godly men are humble servants to God and their wives. God isn’t looking for a self-made man; He’s looking for a man who will humble himself to God’s will. That is the kind of man a Godly woman needs.
LISTENING: Love of Tuning In
I desire to hear not just your words, but your heart.
KINDNESS: Love of Caring for You
Each day I commit kindness to you in abundance. I will compliment you on the details of life, from how you look, to all of the many things you do to make our house a home. I will adore you and cherish you, helping with the household tasks, and not putting it all on you. I will be creative in the way we “date” each other, and not take you for granted. I realize how kind God has been to me, and commit to funneling that kindness to his you.
Many husbands are emotional abusers. They don’t use fists, but their tongue can be just as much or even more damaging. Proverbs 18:21 (NIV) reads, ”The tongue has the power of life or death.” Husbands can speak life or death to their wives with the words they use. I commit to never being unkind to you, even when we don’t agree on something.
HONESTY: Loving the Openness We Share
Trust is HUGE, and I’m so thankful to you for the openness we share, and how we bring everything and every situation to each other. No secrets. A Godly husband (or wife) will always tell the truth. Little white lies are devastating, and leaving out key details that you feel he or she doesn’t need to know, is a disaster to the trust built. Anything that even looks remotely dishonest, will damage.
Godly husbands will be honest and up-front with their wives in all areas. They realize that God made her as a helper and in order for a wife to do that, there can be nothing hidden. I’m so very thankful to have you as my best friend, and for our honesty with each other.
FAITHFULNESS: Loving Only One—You!
I’m so in love with you, and so committed to only you, forever. That commitment is two-fold—because of you, and how deeply I am in love with you, and because of God. I know that being unfaithful can come in more than one form – the physical, but also emotional unfaithfulness. Many men turn to pornography, or turn to other women to share intimate information that should only be shared with a wife. I promise to always bring everything to only you.
KEEPING PROMISES: Love of Following Through
I pray to not let you down. God, give me strength, courage, and wisdom to be the man she needs and desires in all areas. But if I fail, I pray for her understanding and forgiveness to know my heart.
UNDERSTANDING: The Love Underneath it All
I yearn deeply to know your mind, feel your emotions, sense your heartbeat, grieve with your heartaches, and smile with your joys.
CURIOSITY: Love of Knowledge
I’m so blessed to learn and grow with you and from you … every day.
JUSTICE: Love for Fellow Human Beings
I’ve always believed I’ve had a heart for others … but your heart amazes me … it’s so big! I admire you so much. You grieve for the lost, encourage others, and give of yourself.
FORGIVENESS: Love of Self
God forgives. So thankful He does … so should each of us, of others, and of ourselves … What a great example of love and forgiveness He is!
PEACE: Love Beyond Self
I pray every day … many times every day … for your peace, your joy, your fulfillment, your mission.
GOD: IS LOVE!
Ephesians 5:25, says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” This is a spiritual love that is unconditional and sacrificial and only available from God.
I must first come to Him and be filled with His love. Then I can go to my wife and let His love flow through me.
HE is our everything sweetheart! He’s given 2nd chances … at life, at love, at Him.
I love you!
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