If you look at the numbers, you might say yes to this question. Heck a simple Google search on the subject will get you ten pages of results. It seems that everyone is trying to answer this question in one way or another.
After all, in just about every protestant church, the women far outnumber the men. Bethel Gospel Assembly is no different. Look at most of the leadership and or administrative positions and you’ll see mostly women. The “rising stars” of our church (those who seem destined for a life of ministry) are mostly women too.
We agreed that in every church we’ve ever been in, this seems to be the case. But why? Do women love God more than we do? All the brothers in the room emphatically shouted no to this question. All throughout the Bible, men take the lead in worship. Men can worship and pray and we do -- just not in church it seems.
In David Murrow’s book, “Why Men Hate Going to Church” the author says that American churches have become too “feminine” in their music and worship services. He says the masculine spirit is long gone in favor of activities that promote healing and fellowshipping instead of good old fashioned healthy competition that men engage in. He suggests the church do more to cater to the needs of men – communicate the way we do – and men will come pouring in.
But do we feel that our churches are too feminine? I asked. Again, I heard a harmony of, “NO!” Instead, the brothers agreed, that women do feel freer to worship in church than we do.
Men are told not to cry – ever. Women are told that it’s more than okay to cry. Men are told never to dance (which is incredible since David danced out his clothes). Meanwhile there are at least five different dance ministries in Bethel alone, all women. Men are told that the only acceptable emotion is anger or elation, usually directed at a sporting event to guarantee our maleness. Women don’t have these societal hang-ups. They come to church free to worship, cry and communicate.
This is where we have our work cut out for us. Men need to know that Christianity is not a soft faith, but a militant one. We are born again to rebel against the world sin system, representing the One true, soon-coming King and we ain’t taking no shorts from the devil. Men need to know that Jesus Christ flipped tables and railed against hypocrisy, but He also scooped children in His arms and cried at funerals (before He interrupted them by raising the dead).
Yes brothers, men love church as much as women do. We just have to show them that it’s possible. Bring a brother to church, let the Holy Spirit strip him of his false pre-conceived ideas of manhood and watch him grow into the strong man God created him to be.