Be careful where you lend authority over your life. When we surrender our lives to Christ and accept Him as our Lord and savior, life’s choices have been decided and we can walk confident that we know whom our allegiance is to. There are situations, however, that arise that go against everything we have surrendered to God.
When I was younger I battled hard with the conflict of working on Sunday after agreeing to follow the ten commandments. Honor the Sabbath ringed in my ears every Sunday I walked in the gates of the plant I worked at twenty years. It bothered me so bad I took a straight day job I did not really want just to be off on Sundays. I realized in time what really bothered me was surrendering authority I had pledged to God to an employer. When I came to terms with the fact that it was between me and God and honoring the Sabbath was possible where ever I was, whatever I was doing, the job lost its position of control over the situation and I moved on.
It is easy as a spouse to get wrapped up in who is ‘in charge’. This is why ‘it is better to remain single, but if you must, marry’. Relationships are always about control, whether agreed, fought out, or never released, there is no relationship without control boundaries. Psychologist earn many millions of dollars helping people to define where those boundaries are. Some people get trampled, others trample, and yet others never get to the point of interacting at all. When a relationship of any kind is controlled by God, His is the ultimate authority and therefore He is the one in control, not you, not your spouse and not you both. His will, His precepts governs all. Authority is His and therefore the relationship has the foundation it needs to proceed.
There is another area seldom touched on, much like it is taboo and cannot be discussed. A lot of people when they become Christians or even simply when they are in a church setting surrender all authority to church leaders. Although highly accepted, it is not Biblical and can have pitfalls. The Catholic church scandal looms in most people’s consciousness as a prime example where authority given to someone other than God is misguided. Church leaders should be trustworthy and for the most part, are, but it does not change God’s word when even Jesus said ‘there is none good, but one’. Many years ago I was in a situation where a pastor brought something to my attention. It was so ridiculous I actually made jokes about it and played along. When I realized the serious of the situation, he offered a course of action that I knew in my heart of hearts was not what God’s word said about handling conflict. I knew what he proposed was wrong, but he was the church pastor, right? As promised in God’s word, the whole situation went down badly, but I learned a valuable lesson. Never again have I leant authority of my life or decision to anyone but God.
When I need marital advice, I turn to God’s word. Financial concerns, I find answers in the one I accepted as Lord. In raising my children, I do it God’s way. Do I feel like I live in a confinement of rules and controls? Just the opposite. I walk though life with my head held high like one who bears the royal seal of the king and it is by His authority I am justified in my life.