Home Read What's New Join
My Account Login

Read Our Devotional             2016 Opportunities to be Published             Detailed Navigation

The HOME for Christian writers! The Home for Christian Writers!



What's New
Your Children are a Sacred Trust
by Patricia Backora
Free to Share
Author requests article critique


Your Children are a Sacred Trust

I say especially to those who confess My Name as Lord, I have given you, My people, your children to raise in the fear and nurture of the Lord. Not only are you to raise these precious children and young people to love their God, while they live under your roof it is YOUR responsibility to provide for them. To provide food, clothing and a roof over their head as I give you the strength and power to do it. And not only that, but to shield them as much as you are able from the wickedness of the world and physically protect them from bullies, at school and elsewhere.

Many parents, even Christian parents, are afraid to “make waves” by complaining about the abuse and harm done to their own children by their peer group, and even by teachers and other authority figures. That’s right. Lots of times, teachers stick up for the guilty majority rather than defending the victim, who’s in the minority. These teachers prefer to be liked and respected by the devil’s children who are picking on your child, rather than suffer inconvenience and “loss of face” in the teacher’s lounge. These spineless worms are too scared to expel troublemakers from their classes, too timid to do anything but turn a blind eye to violence and mischief happening out in the hallways.

The six hours or so your child is out of your home getting his/her education in the secular school system (and sometimes in nominal church schools) he/she could be at risk of harm through bullying. During those precious hours you cease to be the one in charge, and the acting parent of your child is his/her teachers, who may or may not even like your child, much less love them. For those hours you relinquish your place of authority over your children. If the school authority figures (or the bus driver) decides to let your child be abused, there’s little you can do about it if you don’t even know what’s going on. Sometimes your child is too embarrassed to let you know about it.

That child is especially at risk if he/she is a sweet, gentle, shy individual who only wants to learn and make friends by being the person they truly are instead of a phony mask-wearer who puts on a tough act to be seen as cool by the dominant peer group. I have said in My Word that you are to avoid the appearance of evil (I Thes.5:22). There is NO commandment in My Word to act “cool” or join the right cliques in school. More importantly, I have said that gentleness, not cruelty and snobbery, is a Fruit of the Spirit (Gal.5:22). Any Christian boy who manifests tenderness of heart and gentleness toward unpopular individuals is at risk of being called vile names by the devil’s children. The biggest losses in a Christian child’s life could be spiritual instead of emotional or physical. The fruits of the Spirit could be suppressed in the life of a Christian child who’s out there in the worldly secular school system and afraid to cross his/her peer group. Christ could be demoted from the throne of your child’s life, because it “just ain’t cool” to be a Christian. Lots of people, even Christian people say, “When in Rome, do as the Romans do”. But which kingdom are you a citizen of, My people? Rome was a mighty empire. But Rome was a wicked persecutor of Christians which fell to ashes in the annals of history.

As for this nonsense about bullying being character-forming, consider this parable: A certain man owned a champion race horse. It was a sleek, beautiful animal, graceful of form and high-spirited, eager to run the race and win. But the man entrusted the horse to a trainer he barely knew. The man’s wife, who was too weak to intervene much, had heard rumors that this particular trainer might not be a very kind person, and might even be a little rough on the animals in his care. She pleaded with her husband to go easy on the animal.

So how did the horse’s owner react to this news tip? He said to his wife, “Forget it. No big deal. We’ve pampered this horse way too much anyway. He’s too much like a pet. A little rough treatment will only discipline this horse to be tougher, stronger and more aggressive when he has to go out into the REAL world and compete for his own living. The School of Hard knocks will teach my horse to roll with the punches in an imperfect world. I’ll just relax and leave my horse in the hands of his trainer, and when he gets done with him, I expect great things out of my horse in the way of performance and endurance on the race track.”

The indifference of the horse’s owner was sweet music to the trainer, who was a very sadistic individual who took pleasure in the suffering of others. At last the so-called trainer had a blank check to treat an animal any old way he pleased. This would be fun. My, how the trainer loved his job!

While the trainer had the horse, he saw to it that the stable boy gave the horse a sound whipping with a belt each and every day, to give him a tougher hide. Lead weights were attached to the horse’s ankles. While the horse’s back was still raw and bleeding from the daily abuse, a rough saddle blanket would be put on him, along with leather stirrups and a heavy saddle. Worst of all was the sharp metal bit which hurt the horse’s mouth so much that when it was removed for mealtimes, eating was too painful. The horse’s exercise regimen consisted of being forced to run twenty miles a day over a stony track, chased by vicious dogs who nipped at his heels.

The horse got Saturdays and Sundays off from his daily workouts. The trainer always enjoyed Mondays, when the horse’s festering wounds would be ripped back open and fresh pain flooded the once magnificent race horse.

Mealtimes were sheer hell for the horse. He was fed meager portions of dirty hay mixed with gravel. When he was thirsty he got filthy drinking water which was never changed, just left to stagnate. If he complained he got extra blows from the stable boy who fed him. When bedtime came, the horse slept under a leaky roof on filthy straw infested with mice and maggots. So the bullying went on both night and day. The horse could not properly rest because something was always eating at him. He was never tenderly cared for or groomed, only insulted and whipped by the stable boys to ‘toughen him up’.

When the owner of the horse came to pick him up, the horse was covered in oozing sores. His muscles were wasted away. He was bare skin and bones. His teeth were broken and rotted from bad food. His mane was matted. His hooves were split from lack of care and from running every day on rough gravel with weights tied around his legs.

The horse finally went home. And when he did, he got shipped off to the race track by the owner, who turned a blind eye to all his wounds. The horse’s heart fell because while he was in captivity to cruel men he’d thought, Surely even my hard-hearted master will take pity on me when he sees what was done to me. But the horse was in for a big shock. Who do you think got the blame when the horse came in last on the race track? The horse, who else? The owner yelled at the horse for causing him so much embarrassment by losing all his races. The man even blamed the horse for being ugly and sick-looking. The owner scolded the horse for being a wimp and not exercising ‘mind over matter’ so the animal could ‘get over it’ and move on with his life and prove he was still a champion thoroughbred. The owner stopped calling him his horse and said it was his wife’s horse now, because she’d ruined him by petting him too much. The man told the horse that if he didn’t “snap out of it”, he’d be hauled away by men in white coats and never be seen or heard from again.

The owner noticed that his sick horse didn’t want to get up in the morning, just cringe in the corner of the barn as if he were terrified of anything and everything. The man warned the horse that if he didn’t ‘stop acting like a weak wimp’ and be the same healthy horse he was before, he’d get sent to the glue factory. The wife melted into tears when the husband told her he intended to send him there. To stop her crying he said, “All right, dear, no glue factory. We’ll find some other way.”

The foolish man, annoyed that he’d spent so much to buy the horse and pay the trainer, got so angry he found an even more humiliating way to punish the horse. Not by sending him to a glue factory, but to a dog food factory, to eventually be gobbled up by the same mean dogs which nipped at his heels.

That’s the way many parents of bullied students operate. When their child is insulted or beaten up every day, and the health and well-being of that child deteriorates, an unfair burden is put on the child’s back to defend himself against a whole gang of bullies. When the poor child is unable to fend off ten tough dudes who want to seriously damage his body or knock out a few teeth, the child’s tough macho dad disowns him for being a “loser” who failed to win the fight. So now it’s his wife’s kid, not his. Through the neglect and indifference of adults, the child literally gets thrown to vicious dogs in the classroom and on the school bus.

When the boy is safely at home and suffering flashbacks, nightmares and panic attacks, or even disabled by physical injuries, boys, especially, are barked at by macho fathers and warned to toughen up or they’d be treated like wimps throughout their lives. The world won’t tolerate any signs of weakness, the dad warns (sometimes the mother does this too). So letting the child suffer the bullying is really doing him a favor. But what does Jesus say about what’s good and what’s bad?

Matt.7:11: Or what man is there of you, whom if his son ask bread, will he give him a stone?
10 Or if he ask a fish, will he give him a serpent?
11 If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children, how much more shall your Father which is in heaven give good things to them that ask him?

So many people, including professing Christian believers, give their kids EVIL presents in the form of “training for real life out in the real world.” Instead of letting their kids be nourished with good spiritual bread, they allow their kids to be crushed with stones. Instead of something nourishing, they present their own precious children with a serpent (something evil and destructive).

12 Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the law and the prophets.

The teaching of Jesus commonly called the Golden Rule states that you should do nothing to your neighbor you wouldn’t want done to yourself. What if the boss decided to taunt you every day, to trip you when you came through the door? What if you went to your work desk only to find someone had scribbled obscenities on your important papers, or put a tack in your chair? Is THAT a good gift? If that happened in the workplace, especially as an ongoing offense with malicious intent, wouldn’t you feel justified in reporting it to the Labor Board or the police as something the boss tolerates in the workplace? Wouldn’t you consider these crimes health and safety violations? And if you were assaulted by a stranger on the bus, wouldn’t you call it a CRIME? But when those same crimes are inflicted upon a helpless child, it’s called “harmless fun” or “part of growing up”. HOGWASH!

In the name of all sanity, why should your own children, who are sometimes far weaker and smaller than yourself, be subjected to those same atrocities day in and day out? Why would any decent Christian parent be so stupid and callous as to allow the destruction of their own child, when they wouldn’t tolerate it happening to themselves at work?

When the child cries in public or shows emotional deterioration of any kind because of the abuse, it is the child who’s scolded and shamed and called a crybaby for “not acting like a man” and taking it cheerfully. Even girls are put under tremendous pressure to suppress their tender feminine nature and act tough. They are shamed out of showing how hurt they are. So many of My precious little children carry deep scars in their soul throughout their lifetime not just because of the bullies, but because of the ENABLERS of those bullies. Such irresponsible adult authority figures hurt them twice by BLAMING THE VICTIM and refusing to step in and deal justly with a no-win situation. Bullied children, instead of being tenderly cared for and protected, are literally thrown to the dogs, the two-legged kind, to be devoured. This is even done many times by those who should know better, Christian parents.

Phil.3:2: Beware of dogs, beware of evil workers, beware of the concision.

If Paul warned adult believers to beware of dogs, that should surely apply to children as well. Stay away from them! Period. Paul wasn’t talking about staying away from French poodles, Chihuahuas, cocker spaniels or even Doberman pinschers. He meant for you to keep your distance from vicious people who act like they don’t even possess a soul, who have reduced themselves to the level of wild beasts by the way they act!

When the bullied child grows up to be a man or woman and doesn’t achieve all the wonderful dreams the parents had for them, it’s the child who’s to blame, they reason, for being lazy or cowardly. Forgotten are all the long years that child was whipped verbally or physically by their peers and mentally tortured beyond all endurance. Forgotten are all the many thousands, if not millions, of times, the poor kid was mercilessly ridiculed and called a loser, a wimp, a failure, not just by mean students and teachers, but even by those who were supposed to love and protect him. You can’t plant failure seeds in your own child and expect him/her to become the next U.S. president!

Conveniently forgotten is the fact the parents’ neglect or indifference ENABLED bullies to hurt their child for so long. And now that it’s time to run round the race track of life, their child is hobbled by all the hurts of the past, still tied to that child’s ankles like lead weights. Those are the fruits of entrusting your precious child to an unmerciful trainer (bully-enabling teacher) who looked the other way while others DAILY tortured your poor child and filled his heart with hurtful, bitter things, like a slow drip of spiritual rat poison.

Some Christians still insist that being “nice” is all I ever require of anyone, and gross wickedness should be allowed to run its course unhindered in the world, even if it affects their own families. That is a cowardly copout and a lie of satan.

Romans 13:3-4: For rulers are not a terror to good works, but to the evil. Wilt thou then not be afraid of the power? do that which is good, and thou shalt have praise of the same:
4 For he is the minister of God to thee for good. But if thou do that which is evil, be afraid; for HE BEARETH NOT THE SWORD IN VAIN: FOR HE IS THE MINISTER OF GOD, A REVENGER TO EXECUTE WRATH UPON HIM THAT DOETH EVIL.
I have ordained that in every society there should be officials entrusted to “bear the sword” or mete out appropriate punishments on evildoers, in just proportion to the crimes committed. Where is the paddle (or removal from the classroom) when such disciplinary measures are needed to protect vulnerable students from those who hit, insult and threaten others? Where is the godly bus driver who excludes violent, dangerous kids from riding on his bus anymore because some innocent child was assaulted when he/she was minding their own business and only wanted to get home safely?

My people, how do you expect to rule and reign with Me in the world to come if you have an aversion to seeing basic human justice prevail in your society? Not lynch mob revenge, but administering proper measures of discipline and adhering to the due process of law in order to deal with juvenile offenders who make life miserable in their communities and at school.

I’ve had enough of all this sickly sweet sentiment about unconditional forgiveness of unrepentant criminals who are eager to hurt your child again and again because just they can get away with it! Bullies don’t melt with godly sorrow when society does nothing to stop them. They take that attitude as tacit approval of what they’re doing and see passivity as permission to carry on their campaign of hatred and persecution. Or else they interpret that passive do-nothing “forgiveness” as fearful weakness and license to continue their behavior. Someone else’s child might get hurt after bullies finish off your own child. And the parents of the next child who gets hurt may not even be believers in Me. They may be desperate enough to do something rash or foolish if the bullies aren’t stopped in time.

Don’t ever harbor hatred. If incorrigible wicked people ever need to be hated, that’s My job. Just turn such enemies over to Me to be reserved for the fearful judgment they deserve. Do you seriously believe I no longer want order and security in society just because I taught you to love your neighbor as yourself? Part of loving your neighbor is wanting him/her to live securely and in peace, protected from violent thugs. Many of My people RUSH to reassure unrepentant, violent criminals that I still love them UNCONDITIONALLY regardless of what they’ve done, even if those sinners blaspheme and mock My Son, even if they reject faith in Him and cling tenaciously to their sins. Through such sweet-sounding religious deception of the enemy, Christians have WIDENED the narrow Way to Life to include all, even hardened, vicious evil bullies who have no intention of ever confessing and forsaking their sin. Do you seriously think I’ve prepared mansions in glory for murderous thugs who would turn My heaven into a haven for wickedness? The concept of GOD’S UNCONDITIONAL LOVE appears nowhere in scripture, not even in the Gospels or the New Testament.

Psalms 5:5: The foolish shall not stand in thy sight: thou (God) hatest all workers of iniquity.

Many of you are more concerned about being good stewards over where your money goes than being a good steward over the emotional and spiritual health of your own children. You turn a blind eye to where your own dear child goes to school each day. Ignorance isn’t always bliss. Often it leads to terrible tragedy.

Satan knows full well that if My church is preoccupied with money and finances, and that’s all the preachers preach about, he’s scored a huge victory by diverting My people’s attention away from the snakes sneaking into the sheep fold. Do you seriously think I treasure money at all? Is all the money on earth worth the health, life and peace of your own child? Get real! Stop listening to religious lies which lead you to believe that abuse is good for your children’s character development. Don’t be a bully ENABLER. Those who ENABLE bullies to bully by taking a passive attitude to them will ultimately share in their guilt and punishment (2 John 11). Many teachers and other school officials, and cowardly bus drivers, will stand before Me guilty of being passive accomplices to the violent crimes and injuries suffered by bullied children. Don’t allow your child to be one of these unfortunate casualties. Your precious child belongs to Me, not to satan and his crowd.

Would you let the devil babysit your child? Would you allow your own child(ren) to be used as a dart board by satan and his demons for several hours a day, every day of the week except for Sundays? The devil can’t always be there to personally tear down your child’s soul, but he has many willing human hands at your child’s school to do his dirty work of soul destruction for him. Satan’s children do the works of their infernal father below.

John 8:44: Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.

One of satan’s greatest deceptions is to persuade Christians that ALL men are my sons and daughters. I relate to sinners only as their Judge and their Creator, unless they are willing to repent, receive Christ and forsake all sin.

Prov.3:32: For the forward (evildoer) is abomination (hateful thing) to the LORD: but his secret (confidential friendship) is with the righteous.

Evildoers are still an abomination to Me, saith the Lord. Violent, foul-mouthed troublemakers are not fit companions or role models for your children. My people, especially, must guard against letting such punks have access to their children to taunt and torment them. Those who are hardened, violent, and stubbornly unrepentant are only fuel for the coming fires of judgment. Wicked, aggressive bullies will surely tear your child apart emotionally and spiritually, not build him/her up in the things of My Kingdom.

Your children are a sacred trust from Me, saith the Lord. On the Day of Judgment I’ll ask each and every Christian parent whether they raised their children to know Me as Lord, and whether they did all they could to keep them safe from the evil one, the devil and his crowd.

2 Cor.6:14: Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?
16 And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.
17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you,
18 And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.

Matt.7: 13 Enter ye in at the strait gate: for wide is the gate, and broad is the way, that leadeth to destruction, and many there be which go in thereat:
14 Because strait (NARROW) is the gate, and narrow is the way, which leadeth unto life, and few there be that find it.

Verse 6: Thou shalt destroy them that speak leasing (falsehood): the LORD will abhor (strongly hate) the bloody (violent) and deceitful man.

Rev.21:17: And there shall in no wise enter into it (God’s heavenly City ) any thing that defileth (morally corrupts), neither whatsoever worketh abomination (deeds hateful to God), or maketh a lie: but they which are written in the Lamb's book of life.

2 Cor.6:14: Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?
16 And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.
17 Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you,
18 And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty.

Read more articles by Patricia Backora or search for other articles by topic below.

Read more by clicking on a link:
Free Reprints
Main Site Articles
Most Read Articles
Highly Acclaimed Challenge Articles.
New Release Christian Books for Free for a Simple Review.

NEW - Surprise Me With an Article - Click here for a random URL

God is Not Against You - He Came on an All Out Rescue Mission to Save You

...in Christ God was reconciling the world to himself, not counting their trespasses against them... 2 Cor 5:19

Therefore, my friends, I want you to know that through Jesus the forgiveness of sins is proclaimed to you. Acts 13:38


The opinions expressed by authors do not necessarily reflect the opinion of FaithWriters.com.
This article has been read 419 times     < Previous | Next >

Member Comments
Member Date


Free Audio Bible
500 Plus Languages
Faith Comes By Hearing.com