"Be angry and do not sin ..." Ephesians 4:26 (ESV)
The fact is, internalizing your anger does not make you a better Christian than the person who blows up. Either way, it is wrong and it is an ineffective way to get others to understand your point-of-view.
I believe if most people obeyed this verse, we'd have a lot less depression in our society. The number one cause of depression is repressed anger. If you do not talk it out, you are going to take it out -- on yourself or somebody else. If you hold your anger in it will make you sick,why do you think so many people have high blood pressure or heart disease or are addicted to drugs? Many times it is because of repressed anger
At the same time people who blow up tend to destroy a lot of fences. Many times I will blow up, then pray to God for help in dealing with the situation.So many times there are things involved I do not know about when I blow up the when I find out the reasons for the incident I am ashamed. The best thing to do then is go and humble and sincerely apologize to the person you hurt
. A good example is when parents wanted to change class times with me one week. I became very angry because they were always changing class times. later I found out the students had mandatory obligations elsewhere.Thankfully I was in my apartment alone when I blew up. I still apologized to the parent. Their respect for me grew.
May the sunshine of Gods love bless you today and every day
Anger usually blows up using the hardest part of the body to control: the tongue. When words are let out in anger it is so hard to retrieve them and harder still to make repairs at damaged relationships. Very inspiring - you made me think of MY anger times.