In the Garden of Eden, Adam and Eve experienced bliss with no sin. They lived naked together and enjoyed union with God until the day they disobeyed and sinned.
God designed man and woman to unite in a wonderful bond as husband and wife. God designed them to reflect his love, to live in love with each other, and to procreate children to continue the human race.
v23 The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman,' for she was taken out of man." v24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh (Gen 2:23-24 NIV).
On Mount Horeb, God laid out a universal code for living in giving Moses the Ten Commandments. These included “You shall not commit adultery” and “You shall not covet your neighbor's wife.” (Exodus 20).
God gave the ultimate standard for which the entire Hebrew Law was written.
V1 The LORD said to Moses, 2 "Speak to the entire assembly of Israel and say to them: 'Be holy because I, the LORD your God, am holy'” (Lev 19:1-2 NIV).
Sexual sin is much like a spider catching a fly. The spider builds an attractive web in an opportune place. The unwary fly comes along and almost by accident is caught up. The spider attacks and solidly wraps the fly tying him in an inescapable casing. At his leisure, the spider will eat the fly.
Safe strategy for the fly, of course, is to veer away from the web in the first place.
Men of the Bible were ensnared in sexual sin. One case is Judah and Tamar.
v13 When Tamar was told, "Your father-in-law is on his way to Timnah to shear his sheep," 14 she took off her widow's clothes, covered herself with a veil to disguise herself, and then sat down at the entrance to Enaim, which is on the road to Timnah....
v15 When Judah saw her, he thought she was a prostitute, for she had covered her face. 16 Not realizing that she was his daughter-in-law, he went over to her by the roadside and said, "Come now, let me sleep with you."
"And what will you give me to sleep with you?" she asked (Gen 38:13-16 NIV).
Another case is Sampson and Delilah. Sampson was trapped in lust and ultimately betrayed by Delilah.
V4 Some time later, he fell in love with a woman in the Valley of Sorek whose name was Delilah. 5 The rulers of the Philistines went to her and said, "See if you can lure him into showing you the secret of his great strength and how we can overpower him so we may tie him up and subdue him. Each one of us will give you eleven hundred shekels of silver."
V6 So Delilah said to Samson, "Tell me the secret of your great strength and how you can be tied up and subdued" (Judges 16:4-6 NIV).
Most know the murderous sin of David with Bathsheba, another man's wife.
V2 One evening David got up from his bed and walked around on the roof of the palace. From the roof he saw a woman bathing. The woman was very beautiful, 3 and David sent someone to find out about her. The man said, "Isn't this Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam and the wife of Uriah the Hittite?" 4 Then David sent messengers to get her. She came to him, and he slept with her. (She had purified herself from her uncleanness.) Then she went back home. 5 The woman conceived and sent word to David, saying, "I am pregnant" (2 Sam 11:2-5 NIV).
Joseph was a servant of God who resisted strong temptation from Potypher's wife. In Egypt, the feminine dress was frequently transparent fabric. Although he refused her advances, her false accusation cost him fourteen years in prison.
V9 No one is greater in this house than I am. My master has withheld nothing from me except you, because you are his wife. How then could I do such a wicked thing and sin against God?" 10 And though she spoke to Joseph day after day, he refused to go to bed with her or even be with her.
V11 One day he went into the house to attend to his duties, and none of the household servants was inside. 12 She caught him by his cloak and said, "Come to bed with me!" But he left his cloak in her hand and ran out of the house (Gen 38:9-12 NIV).
“V8 Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.”
Jesus proclaimed this in the Beatitudes at the beginning of the Sermon on the Mount (Matt 5:8 NIV). This becomes a worthy spiritual battle cry for the man fighting temptation.
V27 "You have heard that it was said, 'Do not commit adultery.'
V28 “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
V29 “If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell,” Jesus said (Matt 5:27-29 NIV).
One half of the human race is female. God designed this so intentionally for the purposes of relationship. Man will enjoy the beauty of women wherever he encounters them. There is a difference between enjoying beauty and being tempted by lust to sin.
As Jesus said, it's in the heart.
It is very important for the husband and wife to nourish daily the love bond between them.
V3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. 5 Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control (1 Cor 7:1-3 NIV).
“Without holiness no one will see the Lord,” Hebrew 12:14 (NIV) gives us an eternal warning.
Create in me a clean heart,
O, GOD; and renew a right
Spirit with me. This was
the prayer of David after
he was found in adultery
and sin and shame; and it
is still heard in the cry
of our heart today!!