What were you thinking when you posted that nasty note about someone on that social network website? Even though you didn't called the person by name you knew he/she was a member of the site and would know you were referring to them. Why couldn't you settle the issue face to face than take the cowardly way of venting your frustrations on the Internet.
What were you thinking posting your sexual adventures online with your friends thinking that it's harmless fun. How is it you keep it hidden from your parents not wanting them to know but freely dispatch your "business" on the Internet for everyone else to see? That don't make no sense at all. If it's a shame to want your parents to know about it what makes you think everyone who reads it approve of your conduct.
What were you thinking posting your body characteristics on your profile page? You think that's cute? Don't you know you have sex predators who roam the Internet just to find young girls and men advertising their "goods" so they can hook up for a fling? And many of these pedophiles are old enough to be your father or mother and they're looking for young fresh meat to seduce.And some young people know these degenerates are older but are playing a game of tease with them. These young fools think they're playing these predators but they are the ones being played.The young prey falls for the craftiness of these seducers and on a dare meet up with them to their eternal regret.
What were you thinking using profanities to describe your anger over things that's not going right with you? If you are a Christian how do you think that's going over with your fellow Christian friends online? Don't you know your character is often judged by the things that you say? There's an old saying that goes first impressions are usually the last meaning that if someone seeing you for the first time caught you acting terrible you are looked on in a negative light even if you don't often behave that way.
What were you thinking by expressing yourself using such bad words don't you know that once you put that out you can never get it back? Such things have a way of coming back to haunt you when you least expect it.Consider if you apply for a job online don't you know many companies check your character references on websites like myspace and facebook? They know that many seeking employment uses these sites and they can determine if you qualify for a job. Even if you have the qualifications to be hired such companies may deny you if they find inappropiate comments on your profile page. That's why you can't just say anything you want and think it won't cost you.
What were you thinking boyfriend or girlfriend when you had that picture taken of you being naked? What happens if you split up and one of you decides to get retribution by sending the photo around to friends via cellphone or the Internet to humiliate and embarrass you? What you thought was a harmless romantic moment has made you the object of ridicule . Now the school administrators have found out and you're in deep trouble maybe facing the prospect of being expelled from school.
What were you thinking trashing that schoolmate with your friends online? You don't even know the person but you're going along with it being part of the clique. Don't you know what goes around comes around? It won't be long when you likewise will be ridicule by someone even if you haven't done anything to merit it. You're known by the company you keep and if you stay around trash-minded people that is how you will be regarded.It's not worth it buckling under peer pressure to belong to a group who waste time gossiping and tearing down people for sport.
What were you thinking responding to that text of meeting with your friends downtown to hang out at the mall only to be part of a "flash-mob" creating havoc there destroying property and assaulting people? That's real cool until you got caught by the police and now your embarrassed parents have to come down to bail you out. How does it feel to have your parents scolded by the judge for your irresponsible behaviour and to add insult to injury they found out you lied to them concerning your whereabouts when the incident occured? That was real smart!
What were you thinking about parent by not monitoring your teenaged child's activity on the Internet? You need to be aware of the sites they go on as well as the things they say to friends and associates. Your child might think its their private business to do what they want but their business is YOUR BUSINESS as the parent. You should have access to their password and if they don't comply to the rules you need to take their privileges away. And if they resist telling you they're grown particularly they who have hit the legal age of young adults at age 18, then you need to tell them to pack their bags and take their grown self out the door.
Let's see how they manage to live on their own with no money and no job or a piece of job paying minimal wages that can't even pay for a one room efficiency for a month.They may tried to go live at a relative but that relative don't want no part of that problem. Sometimes you have to use tough love on your kids so that they get the message you will not tolerate bad behavior and you must be respected as the parent. Hopefully like the prodigal's son the child will come to himself, come home and recognize your authority as the parent.
As parents we have to protect our children sometimes from themselves for the things they may do. Too often they act impulsively without thinking of the consequences. It's our responsibility to teach and train them through love and patience the principles of Christian values. When guided by the Word they earn our trust to make right decisions that help them grow up to be responsible and productive young people in our community. If parents think right they can influence their children to do likewise.
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