How does one survive ridicule, embarrassment or failure? Yes, there are bad days which jolt us like a bolt of lightning out of the blue. And, we are left wondering: ¡®How did that happen?!¡¯ ¡®What was I thinking?!¡¯ ¡®IF only I had taken the other turning.¡¯
When our dignity or self-worth is under attack from our own misdeeds, the least that we could do is: Don¡¯t Be Too Hard On Ourselves. Of course, if we are on a denial mode or intend to cover up rather than face up to it, we are distancing ourselves from the problem. Indeed, as Sir Winston Churchill had observed, ¡°Once in a while you will stumble upon the truth but most of us manage to pick ourselves up and hurry along as if nothing had happened.¡±
Recovery comes when we call a spade a spade. If we have any ounce of humanity in us we would feel bad when we falter or disappoint. However, no matter how much we nurse it or how often we rehearse it, it will not alter the situation. As it has already happened, our response is imperative. So, we might as well look at the possibility rather than bemoan the ruins. Hammering ourselves further would not improve matter, but dampen our spirit. As it is, the people whom we have offended would have been mad at us and our adversary is already jeering us.
So, what do we do? We swallow our pride, recognize that we are not infallible and hold on to the resolve that we will learn from it so as not to repeat it in future.
When we have recovered or re-composed ourselves from such detours in the journey of life, we can move on to reconstruct our self-image. We review again how God would look at us as we look into the mirror of His words. If anyone were to know to us through and through, it would be our Creator. As the master potter, he shapes our destiny if we are malleable, and as we know, ¡±Destiny is God¡¯s best idea for us.¡± ¡°For we are God's [own] handiwork (His workmanship), recreated in Christ Jesus, [born anew] that we may do those good works which God predestined (planned beforehand) for us [taking paths which He prepared ahead of time], that we should walk in them [living the good life which He prearranged and made ready for us to live].¡± Ephesians 2:10 (Amp)
As our operating system becomes re-aligned to God¡¯s governance for us to live by faith in Christ Jesus (the Word of God), we are on the road to restoration. This is where our boat is on even keel and we begin to set sail to make good our mistakes and beyond -- with a vision of the bigger picture of our sojourning here on planet Earth. God is the Author and Finisher of our faith, and we keep on pressing on to realize His plans and purposes for us whilst learning from and overcoming the challenges and difficulties that stumbles us occasionally.
In summary, when bad things happen to us we can remember the following:
* Don¡¯t be too hard on ourselves
* Don¡¯t give up on ourselves
* Don¡¯t lose sight of the big picture
Fret not, even when life is fraught with difficulties and setbacks. When God is with us, we can recover, re-construct and restore our life.