First of all, I am Pro-life and am against abortion. I believe Psalm 139:16 where it says, "Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being unperfect (not complete); and in thy book all my members were written, which in continuance were fashioned, when as yet there was none of them." Of course, if a person does not believe in God or what the Scriptures say, this verse does not mean a thing. This puts a big dividing wall between those of us that believe this is true and those of us that do not. The wall may as well be concrete and 100 feet thick, because hardly ever will a person on either side change their mind.
I had a miscarriage between my first and second son. I was maybe 6 or 7 weeks along at the time. The doctor told me that it miscarried because there was probably something wrong and the baby would have died later anyway. This was absolutely no comfort to me. At the time, I was not a Christian and had no knowledge of God. However, I was devastated at the loss and my arms ached for what would have been my second child. A bit later I was pregnant again and was overjoyed - but I still missed the child I never had. I had three more children for five in total and still missed the one who was not born. Many years later, my daughter gave birth to a fetal alcohol syndrome baby. That baby is 15 years old now and I love her dearly. So even if there is something wrong, a child is a child and deserves to live. Many children are born with problems and they have a full life - sometimes the life is shorter than we would want, but they were born and have had the chance to live.
My daughter-in-law and son's first baby was full-term and still-born. That was the most heartbreaking experience I have gone through and it was horrifying to them. They were looking forward to their first baby and being able to watch him grow. The doctor said that he was a SIDS baby and would have died in a few months had he been born alive. This was not much comfort to them either, but they got through the grieving and have two healthy normal children. They still miss their little boy and always will. A loss of a child before or after birth is devastating to the parents, never forgotten and always grieved.
I am amazed that the various pro-choice groups encourage young girls to have abortions; the results in later years can be pretty hard to deal with and sometimes a woman never comes to terms with "that was probably for the best." Because deep down, she knows it wasn't. She could have carried the baby to term and adopted him or her out. More and more people are seeking to adopt children, especially newborns - so having an abortion because you can't take care of the baby is not a viable excuse anymore. I cry with joy even when a baby is born on TV and I know the whole thing is a fake birth because it is a part of the movie. A birth is indeed a miracle, and should never be terminated unless it is the only way to save the mother's life - and then I am not so sure about that.
As far as being a fetus and not an actual person until it is viable, how can it be up to us to decide when or when it is not viable? We did not create it (other than the science of procreating), we do not make the fetus a living soul, only God can do that, and only He decides when to give life and when to take it. God in his ultimate wisdom allows a mother to become pregnant even while using birth control or doesn't allow her to become pregnant no matter how hard they are trying. It is still God's choice who is born and who is not, it has never been our choice.
I definitely see the problem for those who don't believe in God; but these same people care for helpless whales, puppies, and even trees. Shouldn't they give the same consideration to a human being who is the most helpless of all before he/she is fully formed and give the baby a chance to live?
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Blessings on you and your family for having chosen "life." Too many times aborting a baby is an easy way out of a bad situation. I commend you for your public stand for life, for it is God-given and precious. Shalom.
Thank you for submitting this article. To encourage you I will share with you something I read in "Encounters of the God Kind" by Jesse DuPlantis. In 1988 God translated Jesse to heaven for 5 hrs and he saw the children that never made it to birth on earth and also the aborted ones. God never loses babies and your child is waiting for you in heaven so you will see that child again. This is just one of the things Jesse shared in his book. I hope this will help you not to grieve but to look forward to the reunion in heaven. God Bless You.