As an old time deliverance preacher (over 40 years), I have too often seen those set free fall back into bondage. That is the reason I don’t just conduct a deliverance service any more, but include some in depth teaching on spiritual warfare.
Regularly missed in many deliverance services is the preparation. And, one step that is missing most often is the lack of just one thing. What is it? The lack of true, honest to goodness, forgiveness. Now, I mean the same type of forgiving that Jesus taught when He said in the midst of His suffering and pain, “Father, forgive them.” When Jesus said that, He not only forgave them for persecuting Him, He died for them!
Luke 23:34  Then Jesus said, “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they do.” And they divided His garments and cast lots.
Think about those who have hurt you in any way. You have said, “I forgive them,” but have you actually meant it? Would your forgiveness of them allow you to give of yourself for them? If that old friend who hurt you and you forgave, now asked for help, would you give it to them? Would you sacrifice your own needs for them?
If not, and you just cannot seem to get free of whatever is keeping you from your deliverance,
maybe the lack of true, honest to goodness, forgiving is the reason.
Let’s break it down a little . . .
Forgive One Another
Ephesians 4:32  And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.
Colossians 3:13  bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Christ forgave you, so you also must do.
The Apostle says we are to forgive one another of whatever has been said or done to us. How? Even as Christ has forgiven us! That covers it all, doesn’t it?
Forgive us, as we have Forgiven
Matthew 6:12  And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.
Jesus said that we have been forgiven, and as such, we should forgive each other.
The Parable of the Unforgiving Servant
Matthew 18:21-35  Then Peter came to Him and said, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times?”  Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.  Therefore the kingdom of heaven is like a certain king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants.  And when he had begun to settle accounts, one was brought to him who owed him ten thousand talents.  But as he was not able to pay, his master commanded that he be sold, with his wife and children and all that he had, and that payment be made.  The servant therefore fell down before him, saying, ‘Master, have patience with me, and I will pay you all.’  Then the master of that servant was moved with compassion, released him, and forgave him the debt.  “But that servant went out and found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii; and he laid hands on him and took him by the throat, saying, ‘Pay me what you owe!’  So his fellow servant fell down at his feet and begged him, saying, ‘Have patience with me, and I will pay you all.’  And he would not, but went and threw him into prison till he should pay the debt.  So when his fellow servants saw what had been done, they were very grieved, and came and told their master all that had been done.  Then his master, after he had called him, said to him, ‘You wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt because you begged me.  Should you not also have had compassion on your fellow servant, just as I had pity on you?’  And his master was angry, and delivered him to the torturers until he should pay all that was due to him.  “So My heavenly Father also will do to you if each of you, from his heart, does not forgive his brother his trespasses.”
Luke 17:3-4  Take heed to yourselves. If your brother sins against you, rebuke him; and if he repents, forgive him.  And if he sins against you seven times in a day, and seven times in a day returns to you, saying, ‘I repent,’ you shall forgive him.”
How often must we forgive someone for what they say or do to us? Every time!
But, why????? Jesus says,
So you can be Forgiven
Luke 6:35-37  But love your enemies, do good, and lend, hoping for nothing in return; and your reward will be great, and you will be sons of the Most High. For He is kind to the unthankful and evil.  Therefore be merciful, just as your Father also is merciful.  “Judge not, and you shall not be judged. Condemn not, and you shall not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.
And, the Apostle says,
Overcome Evil with Good
Romans 12:14-21  Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse.  Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep.  Be of the same mind toward one another. Do not set your mind on high things, but associate with the humble. Do not be wise in your own opinion.  Repay no one evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men.  If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men.  Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord.  Therefore “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; If he is thirsty, give him a drink; For in so doing you will heap coals of fire on his head.”  Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
Finally, Jesus also said that if you are in need of anything, go to God in prayer and talk to Him about it for He hears our prayers and answers them, BUT . . .
Forgiveness and Prayer
Mark 11:25-26  “And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses.  But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in heaven forgive your trespasses.”
If you just can’t forgive someone for what they said or did, then you cannot expect to be forgiven by God, and that will block your breakthrough and deliverance. It is in your hands, not anyone else.