Looking from a kids perspective, adults can be very unreasonable. The reason for this being is not because the adults are jerks (even though that could be the case), but because they have lost what kids call style. I do not mean specific slang-terms or attire, but how we interact with one another, how we see our problems because we do not have thirty plus years of wisdom to fall back on. Adults do not understand that when a kid asks, "Why?" or "Please give me one good reason...?" it is not because we are trying to be pests, but simply because we need explanation. If adults truly want their kids to grow up wise they need to elucidate our uncertainties.
I grew up learning to ask questions, and to search for the right answers. Although without certin guidance I found myself in a place of upset, dismay and violence I indeed did discover a certain aspect about myself that set me apart from the rest. The ability to look beyond myself and into what the world sees. People are corrupt and some are evil, and i learned the hard way that one small flickering candle can penetrate the darkest of places. The thing is that nobody needs to go through that much pain to figure it out. All they need is Adult leaders to show them the way and kids who are not spoiled brats. I am not bashing all parents saying they are dimwitted, because i know hundreds of brilliant and great adult leaders that have committed their lives to helping troubled teens. I am just trying to touch those who are wondering why Johnny no longer wants to hang out with us, and why Lucy is always so tired after sleeping over at Jenna's.
There used to be a time when families had game nights, and told each other secrets. There used to be a time when there was a scheduled breakfast, lunch and dinner and families would talk and get together and be one with each other. I know times have changed and some kids, almost all kids, wouldnt seem to appreciate it, but as i get older i look back and wish i had that. For adults, you need to charish your children and look through their problems with their eyes and not your own. And to the teens, you need to charish your family because you do not know when you will wake up and have no one to hold.
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