3 TESTS PEOPLE OF DESTINY MUST PASS (PART 3)
We continue to examine the effects of low self esteem on one’s identity and consequently on one’s destiny. We looked at the account of a man who failed to realize his destiny because he depended on the approval of people to achieve a sense of self worth. In as much as we shouldn’t derive our security from people, we need people to fulfill purpose. We are made for association, not isolation is another way of saying “No man is an island.”
This brings us to another effect of a distorted view of self identity-pride. Pride convinces people “You are all you need to be by yourself, you don’t need others to succeed.” No wonder proud people don’t ask for help from others, after all they have all it takes to be successful in life. They rarely seek the wisdom of mentors that has the potential to shorten the success journey.
Mistakes can be a contributive part of the success journey only if we will learn from them. However proud people don’t learn from their mistakes, because they are too busy making excuses for them. Swallowing their pride to admit they were wrong is usually an uphill task even when it’s obvious they took the wrong turn. Although we should take a cue from mistakes, the best mistakes to learn from are the mistakes of others.
We are in the best position to harness the help of others on the road of life when we are secured enough to confess that “It is not good for man to be alone.”