How sexy can I dress and how far can I go with my boyfriend are the top two things that Christian young girls want to know.
Which begs the question how far is too far.
You are special just the way you are. God thinks you are so precious that He sent His Son to die on the cross, so that you could live with Him in Heaven after this life is over. The problem is that most of us don't put that same value on ourselves.
It is thought that if you dress in clothes that show off your body that you are confident, that you are sexy and that you are comfortable with you're body. I believe that women and men wear such outfits because they need someone to love them. They think that will attract someone quicker by showing off their assets.
Anyone who is attracted to you because you are wearing a short skirt or flaunting your breasts is not someone you should be involved with. He only has one thing on his mind and it isn't your personality or brain.
You are God's child. You are adopted into the family of the creator of the universe. Think about that for a moment. You are the daughter and son of the King of Kings and Lord of Lords. That makes you valuable.
God puts that type of value on you. And so should you. You should conduct yourself as if you matter.
As I said before, if you want to attract a whoremonger, go ahead and dress like a whore. Prostitutes wear lots of jewerly, make-up and outfits that reveal more than most of us wanted to know--and still they have to charge men to sleep with them. Their relationships with men are not lasting, loving relationships.
Do you have an image of what your future looks like? Do you have dreams? Goals for your life? If you do, you cannot allow yourself to get sidetracked from those goals.
Dating, if you are not careful, can distract you from those goals. Let's say you want to be a doctor. You meet a guy you like a lot. You date for a while, and he asks you to sleep with him. You think you are in love with him, so you do. A few weeks later, you discover you are pregnant. In that moment, everything changed. Your plans to go to medical school changed.
Sounds dramatic, huh? Think it will never happen to you?
Even if you are careful, if you use a condom and/or the pill, neither are one-hundred percent effective. Women have became pregnant while on the pill and while using a condom. Abstainance is the only fool-proof way to not get pregnant.
Pregnancy aside, becoming intimate with a guy or girl is not something to be taken lightly. Let me clue you in on something: if you are feeling pressured to have sex because you think you will lose the guy, having sex with him before marriage is going to ensure that you do lose him.
God commands us to stay pure until we are married. Is that old-fashion thinking? Absolutely not. In this age of STDS and AIDS, abstaining from sex should be common sense, but it is not. People go to bed with men and women they just met. People sleep with their significant others because they feel pressured, because they feel it is expected and because it feels good.
And none of those are good enough reasons to risk your life. Even if you think you know the person, and they say they donít have AIDS or a STD, you canít risk your life on what might be a lie.
You are too precious for that. Which brings us to the question of how far is too far when it comes to relations with your significant other. Is oral sex okay? After all, according to some political figures, oral sex is not really sex. Everyone is doing it. In the restrooms, all over school. Girls line up to do the guys because they think it makes them popular. Do you really think that he cares about you after you do that? Do you think he respects you? Think again.
You think that having oral sex is a sure-fire way not to get pregnant. A baby may not come from that union, but a STD might. You are more likely to catch a STD by having oral sex than you are having intercourse. Not to mention, the emotional toll it is going to eventually take on you. Sex of any kind was not meant to be taken out of marriage. To be done right, you have to be married and be committed to your spouse.
How far is too far? Your concern shouldnít be with how much you can get away with before God is mad at you. God loves you, and He will love you no matter what. The real question is if you really love God, why do you want to disobey His guidelines. Those guidelines are not to hurt you but guide you away from areas that will cause you pain. Instead of worrying about how short you can wear your skirt or how far you can go with your boyfriend, spend more time getting to know God. As you do, He will help you to become a whole person. When you head toward that goal, you will have more self-respect than to allow yourself to get in a situation that would jeopardize the future God has planned for you.