All scripture quotes from the King James Version except otherwise stated.
"And Delilah said to Samson, tell me, I pray thee, wherein thy great strength lieth, and wherewith thou mightest be bound to afflict thee...And it came to pass, when she pressed him daily with her words, and urged him, so that his soul was vexed unto death" Judges 16:6&16
Was it because he took such 'delight' in her or that he was filled with so much lust that he couldn't help himself? The woman was consistent in her demand and yet so was he in avoiding the issue. In doing this, he showed that he had enough presence of mind and insight to know that he must not divulge where he thought the secret of his strength was. He was wrong of course but that is what he believed i.e. his strength lied within the locks of his hair and it not being cut (and some still do today), so he chose to closely guard the secret. Another point is that he even kept it from everybody else including his own people.
The parents could have suspected and even believed it to be so looking at the encounter they had and the instructions that were given. Those instructions too would have been the seeds that sowed the belief that Samson had about his hair. No wine, no razor but the issue here is that this kept him from speaking freely about it because he believed that the source of his strength was there. This is why he didn't tell her (at first). And his fears were obvious enough because he was afraid of the consequence of letting people in on his big secret. It had nothing to do with mistrust or not trusting Delilah as a person. If he really didn't trust her as such the relationship might not have gotten that far in the first place.
But the fact that he wasn't free with her as the rest of the people also showed that he had not found the relationship that he would be free to give himself totally to.
"swear to me that you will not kill me yourselves" Judges 15:12 NIV
He didn't really give himself to anybody even to the woman upon whose laps he chose to forget his daily toils as a man. This lack of commitment revealed what he saw coming i.e. if he told anyone. That is, it is as one having some kind of premonition that evil awaits at the end if he takes a given path. So he saw it coming, he rally believed that good won't come out of him divulging his secrets.
There are some roads we just know (somehow) that we shouldn't take. It doesn't matter if it is clearly labeled as being fraught with dangers or even goodness; we just have that 'feeling' that we shouldn't go that way. It may be a conversation, an invitation or anything else but without saying what it is exactly, we just know that we shouldn't enter into it or accept it. In other words we see it coming
Maybe it’s part of the mysteries of life, because there are times when we recognize such feelings but we still tend to go into it. In fact we even spend some time trying to dissuade that feeling or premonition by trying to be 'logical' about it. We begin to ask questions like what is wrong in doing it. Is it sinful? and we begin to proffer seemingly sound arguments. Suddenly we begin to ask for facts and figures to show us why we shouldn’t take that path. Meanwhile (as if to show our hypocrisy), when we don't really want to do some things we readily shy away from it using those same feelings as our only basis. But now we begin to look for facts and figures; concrete proofs. It is only when it blows up in our faces that we begin to say 'I saw it coming'. Well Samson saw it coming but he did it anyway. May ours not be like his, and if it already is, may we have the heart to take that path of escape before it blows up in our faces. Amen.
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