Not everything is always as neatly packaged as the mainstream Christian media has promised. But some people will actually be presented with the choice to one day be free from an ailment that has bent their life over many years. However, not everyone really wants to trust what life would be like without the burden of their oppressive and limited past.
The symptoms of a victim are relatively easy to spot.
When Israel was handed the opportunity to trust through another test, they grumbled again.
They said to Moses, Why did you bring us out here to die in the wilderness?(Exodus 14:11)
In Luke's gospel, when the eldest son of the prodigal's father focused on materialism rather than mercy, he lost his place in the house.
The older brother was so angry that he would not go into the house (Luke 15:28)
When King David sought a person to show mercy to, a lame man was invited to sit at the table of the highest ranking official in Israel and eat as a dignitary, yet he only knew how to sink with despair and opt out.
Mephibosheth bowed respectfully and exclaimed, "Who is your servant, that you should show such kindness to a dead dog like me?" (2 Samuel 9:8)
A victim mentality is when you blame everyone else for what negatively happens in your world.
You train yourself to define your life in terms of the hurt you received ~
Self victimization becomes the constant echo of your daily thought life
‘I’m not worthy of living above my limitations’
‘If you had it like me, you’d be like me’
‘You didn’t go through what I did, so you have it better’
‘Your situation, sounds bad, but mine is far worse’
‘Things would have been different if …’
I suppose we all have had our own personal encounters with the disguised voice of a so-called friend named victimization. But it's time to sober up! This foul manipulative spirit can lead to a missed destiny and even death.
As seen in the congregation of Moses, it was transmitted to millions of good people that were genuinely trying to follow the God that they loved. It just took a few victims to infect an entire nation.
So they spread this bad report about the land among the Israelites: "The land we traveled through and explored will devour anyone who goes to live there. All the people we saw were huge. We even saw giants there, the descendants of Anak. Next to them we felt like grasshoppers, and that's what they thought, too!" Then the whole community began weeping aloud, and they cried all night. (Numbers 13:32-14:2)
Symptoms of a victim are easily discerned.
Fears are signposts (you are directed by them - victims create victims)
Comparing yourself to others (you are vexed by their success)
Excuses are a way of escape (you are comforted to stay a victim)
Blaming is a way of life (you are exempt from responsibility)
But take heart, the mission of Jesus included the release of the victim.
The Spirit of the Lord God is upon me; because the Lord hath anointed me to preach good tidings unto the meek; he hath sent me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, slaves or victims, and the opening of the prison to them that are bound (Isaiah 61:1)
Today may be the day that you can pick yourself up and move among those that are no longer victimized by their own excuses. John conveys a story regarding a man who was victimized most of his life. He had settled for the common excuse that was used among his type. But something different happened without any notice - One day, Jesus came to a place where victims gathered (the Pool of Bethesda) and gave an order ... the option to obey the order was now in the hands of the victim.
One of the men lying there had been sick for thirty-eight years. When Jesus saw him and knew how long he had been ill, he asked him, "Would you like to get well?" "I can't," the sick man said, "for I have no one to help me into the pool at the movement of the water. While I am trying to get there, someone else always gets in ahead of me." (John 5:5-7)
A typical victim's response. But Jesus wouldn't settle for this disease to be transmitted any longer. He charges the lame man to take action and no longer live in a world of blame and excuses.
Jesus told him, "Stand up, roll up your sleeping mat and go on home!" Instantly, the man was healed! He rolled up the mat and began walking!
Go home? After lying in the same place for 38 years, where is home? The implication is vague - but I suppose it could have been a place that the former victim was entirely unfamiliar with. A place free of victim language, victim excuses, victim blame, victim murmur, victim past, and victim rage - And these are the necessary ills that must be removed in order to remedy the disease of victimization.
Today, save your life and move away from the victim's pool.
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