Why Are Good Men And Women Rejected?
By Mark A. Parks
Rejection is something we all have experienced in some form or another. If not careful, rejection can lead to several emotional and psychological traumas like, low self-esteem, discouragement, anger, depression, and suicidal thoughts. The word reject is defined as- refuse to accept, consider or grant. Just the very definition of the word alone, brings hurtful feelings when itís been done to you. The idea that someone, rather it is a parent, spouse, friend or someone of a love interest wonít accept or want us causes instant heartbreak. Knowing that you are good godly man or woman, you may wonder why and whatís wrong with you. A common phrase that is said a lot is, ďGet over it.Ē To me, this is one of the most insensitive and unrealistic thing to say to someone who has suffered a hurtful rejection. Itís like telling someone who is very sick, ďOh, just get well.Ē The reality is we donít just get over it so easily. Just like a physical scar takes time to heal, so does an emotional scar. And the healing doesnít come any quicker by someone telling us ďGet over it.Ē However, we donít have to have a low self-esteem or feel sorry for ourselves. We may not be that personís choice but we will be someone elseís choice and more importantly we are Godís choice. Godís acceptance is the only one that really matters. When we are accepted in the beloved, we have Godís favor upon our lives and when we have his favor; his blessings are bestowed upon us. Proof of this is shown in the lives of the heroes of faith who were also rejected. David was the youngest son of Jesseís seven other sons. (I Sam 16:10-11 17:12-14) David was not regarded by his father to present before Samuel as a selection for the next king of Israel. But David was already Godís choice and Samuel sought him out and anointed him King.
Joseph, next to Jesus exemplified godly character, was rejected by his older brothers. Because Joseph was loved more by his father Jacob than his brothers, they hated him, threw him in a pit and sold him into slavery to the Egyptians Although Joseph was serving as a slave, God was still with Joseph. Joseph served Potiphar faithfully with diligence and integrity. (Gen 39:1-6) Joseph was later elevated as food commissioner and was second only to the pharaoh in power (Gen 41:37-57). Lastly, our Lord and Savior was rejected, who did no sin or wrong. There was a prophetic mention of his rejection. ďHe was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows and familiar suffering (Isa 53:3). But the day will come when every knee shall bow and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord to the glory of the Father. So, as we can see that we are in good company with the issue of rejection. And rejection does not in anyway take away or diminish our value and worth to God. Itís important to remember that God has a plan for our lives and that entails giving us His best. The bible lets us know that God will not withhold any good thing from those who walk up right before him. So when rejection happens, just know God has something better for us.
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