Are you really prepared to get married? Guess what; God wants you married more than you'll ever desire it! That is the right way to follow now that you're mature enough. But there are many who're married and are stuck, fighting to come out! I assure you that you can avoid this by taking these precautions from God's word. Now please read on.
Psalm 84:11, 12.
For the LORD God is your light and protector. He gives us
Grace and glory. No good thing will the LORD withhold from those who do what is right. O LORD Almighty, happy are those who trust in you.
Taste and see that the Lord is good. (And His gifts). Oh the joys of those who trust in Him! Psalm 34:8 ...God gives some the gift of marriage.... 1Cor.7:7b; But because there is so much sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman should have her own husband. 1Cor.7:2.
Marriage is good, it is God's will, and it is a free gift. Every gift of God must be stirred up, nurtured and developed when received. 2Tim.1:6-8. In the process of doing this, we encounter various forms of challenges. Challenges are part of development. All God's gifts are spiritual yet become physical when loosed down from the heavenly places. James 1:17; Matt.18:18, 19. None of God's gifts will ever get to the nonchalant, complacent and unwilling! We must approach God's throne with real desire, strong and forceful enough to cause our intercession to rout all obstacles and impediments!
It's no longer a mystery that we have an enemy to tackle. There is a specific adversary to be identified. This is the spirit of divorce and marital separation. We wrestle not against flesh and blood...! Rebuke, bind and cast out by force and fury this archenemy, since its common knowledge that devils could be obstinate! This strongman separates present and potential spouses, keeping them apart, delaying potential marriages while frustrating and breaking up well-meaning couples! We shouldn't be ignorant of these devices! Matt.12:28; Lk.11:14, 20-22; Matt. 11:12; Matt. 19:6.
As we engage in fervent intercession, the infallible Word of God is your sword to triumph always; it is not just a statement or souvenir we display. Eph 6:10-18; Mk.16:17; Rev.12:9-11. It is by prayer and faith for sure! The gift of marriage is what we ask for and loose down. This gift compels you to your God-given spouse and him or her to you. It is divinely magnetic! The God intended marriage is also more of being the right person than finding the right person. God will make you if you ask Him. James 1:5, 6; 1 Jn. 5:14, 15.
Prayer changes people and circumstances. Prayer (with the Word) plus faith (in the Word) always saves, heals and delivers! James 5:15. And this is very important and might even surprise you. The primary criteria for a God ordained marriage is not love, but absolute obedience to the Holy Spirit. Who is He prompting you to marry? Now, you might not even love him or her yet, but when you OBEY first, I can assure you, that both of you will fall over each other in extreme love, trust God, not your feelings!
Obedience, absolute obedience to God's will, initiates true, lasting and faithful love. But lust, frustration and regret are the offspring of carnal and selfish choices. God won't confuse you, but give peace. Philippians 4:6, 7. Only those God (not love, favor, beauty or lust) join together, will He prevent anyone or devils from putting asunder. God will never be responsible for selfish relationships, be bold and determined to press for God's perfect choice for you! Matt. 19:6: Prov. 31:30.
Be very honest with God, and tell Him YOU DONíT know how to choose a spouse, let Him choose for you. Know this, His choice will exceed your wildest dreams ultimately, just trust Him! Prov. 3:5, 6; Eph 3:20. Godís choice for you is your shortest route to that your great divine destiny because two called by God will always achieve better than one! "He sent them two by two ... as laborers in God's vineyard in whatever capacity" Lk.10:1,2; Eccl.4:9.
Since marriage is an honorable institution and God being very serious about it, who you marry is of great concern to Him because it has everything to do with your God-ordained destiny. That's why a God ordained marital relationship is not based on someone's love for you or your children, it is based on God's command or approval - He chooses and joins spouses together. This might sound old fashioned but every true child of God should understand God's good intentions, originating from His unconditional and passionate love for us. - Matt.19:6.
This is why the primary criteria for choosing a spouse getting to know God's will, and when you finally know it, your heart is established and peaceful in spite of the threat of delay. Moreover, you can't or dare not break away from His will for WHATEVER reason! If there is a problem, then know that He has the solution to make the relationship work according to His will. Needless to say, never put your heart in any relationship until God approves of it and joins you together in holy matrimony. Any relationship can be a test, a step of faith or a stepping stone to God's approved union. Many hearts have been broken because of ignorance of this.
People can only keep their promises with God's backing. Don't put your heart and trust in people's promises. Take note of them and seek God's consent because anything can happen along the line even though they had good intentions. Only God has absolute control over seen and unforeseen circumstances! Jer.17:5-11; Prov.3:5, 6; Ps.118:8, 9.
The honest prayer is "Lord, choose for me a spouse after your heart, I don't know how to find him or her!" - This is the woman who will SURELY love you and your children, compliment and respect you as her priest, prophet and provider for the family. This will be the man who will SURELY love you and your children and also provide for your spiritual, material and emotional needs as a priest, prophet and provider for your family. Hallelujah!
The person after God's heart, not after your heart, is that person who should win your heart. They will definitely satisfy your hearts desires! His or her genuine love for God is the true and effective yardstick to measure their real love for you and your family. This is the impetus to make him an effective priest, prophet and provider; and her true and respectful help meet, wife and mother. Prov.19:14; Prov. 31:30. You are precious to God.
The God intended marriage is more of being the right person than finding the right person. God will make you if you ask Him. "Let your prayer be: "Lord choose for me a spouse after your heart..." I'm praying with you; let me hear from you soon.
Have a marvelous day in God's awesome presence.
Apostle Steve Adonai.