XIII. Healing in Marriage Crisis, Yes! --Part 2
by Bill Hunt (with Mary Hunt)
In the Holy Spirit, Jesus stood to his feet and took me by my left hand. We walked from the darkened living room with the curtains drawn, through the hallway, and to each of the three bedrooms. Everywhere, we found piles of boxes waiting to be packed.
"Look at what satan has done to your house!" he said to me in each room.
Mary: My Mom's friend, Bea, a Spirit-filled Christian, set aside some time for me to pray with her for inner healing. I drove to the northern part of the county to her home. Something happened in that prayer. As she prayed with me, a burden lifted from me like a heavy load I carried. I now had peace in my soul that I had not known until then.
“Okay, Lord, I'm willing.” I remember sitting out on the patio and praying. “Lord, place the love in me for my husband.” God tenderly comforted me. That night, I heard a flock of geese overhead honking and the Lord spoke to me.
"As the geese know when to fly, you'll know when to return home."
Bill: I understood what Jesus intended as he led me through the house. I am the husband and head of the family. He wanted me to stop packing and to unpack the boxes, set up the household, and prepare for my family's return through a firm attitude of hope. He wanted me to take the exact opposite direction from the one I had started.
I knew it was now my task to reclaim my household from satan.
The next day I became very curious about my unusual experience with Jesus when he told me, "I'm giving you a new heart. I'm giving you My Heart." I wanted to see if it was supported in scripture. I was absolutely astonished at what I found in Ezekial 36 and 11:19!
“I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. And I will put my Spirit in you and move you to follow my decrees and be careful to keep my laws” (Ezek 36:26-27, NIV).
My Pastor Phil had an idea. He made an appointment for me with two lovely young women of faith. I'll call them Marsha and Sandy. These two Christian ladies were both the young wives of husbands who had been convicted and sentenced to life in prison. For two hours, I sat with them on the living room carpet of an apartment and talked about faith and God's healing love.
These two Christian young wives had made a commitment to remain faithful to their husbands and believed they would someday live free with them again. I remember the main point they taught me.
“Words have power.... Never speak a negative word to your wife if you want to see her again. If she speaks divorce, don't even speak that word back to her. You must remain absolutely positive in your faith and in your words if you want God to heal your marriage.”
This is strong advice for partners suffering a marriage crisis.
Mary: I started to feel love again for my husband, and I believe that was the sovereign work of the Holy Spirit. It took a lot of courage to be willing to go back there. It was also the scripture: a woman either leaves or returns.
“A wife must not separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband” (1 Cor 7:10-11, NIV).
Little by little, God healed my feelings. By the time you sent me airline tickets, I was feeling love again for you emotionally. God gave me this gift.
Bill: I was a humbled but eager man when I met my wife returning through the airport with our children. As they walked from the plane, I presented her with one regal red rose.
Mary: I didn't want to stay in Tulsa, so you agreed to give up the divinity program and move back home. We packed the house together and drove back East. Then we both went to Christian counseling together. God even opened a house for us to purchase.
So much changed when God delivered us from organized religion, when we entered a spirit-filled church family that loves each other and knows the Lord. You've got all kinds of support in the Body of Christ, sisters you can talk to, prayer partners. For instance, I can just go and have lunch with a Spirit-filled sister in the Lord. God is going to meet both of our needs, just in conversation. I trust the Lord to do that.
Any Christian couple that belongs to a Christian Church should have help in the pastor. I know there can be different women in the church praying for me, even as I pray for them. I expect the Holy Spirit to use the normal channels of the Christian life in a healthy church to bring answers, so these kinds of crises will not happen.
Bill: The point is God loves his people so much that he intervened in our lives and healed us for each other. We looked to his face and passed through the rocks together and came out on the other side. God is the necessary first partner in any marriage.
“A threefold cord is not quickly broken” (Ecc. 4:12, NKJ).
(True Story # 13 in series: Life is 100 Million Miracles. Yes! There's more to come....)
Bill and Mary,
How wonderful to see how the Holy Spirit works miracles in our lives.
All we need is a willing spirit and heart for Him to perform His good works in us.
Thank you, always, for sharing.