So glad I found this thread "accidentally." It's something I've been thinking about a lot lately.
Our small church has Sunday morning, evening, and Wednesday night services. My husband is the praise and worship leader, so we go to both services on Sunday, but usually not on Wednesday. There is no music on Wednesday night.
We also usually attend a Sunday School class before worship service, but recently, I've not gone to Sunday School a few times. Part of it is because I have back problems (a "left over" from a fractured back several years ago), and it's very difficult for me to sit both through Sunday School and worship.
But really, there are other reasons as well. Our pastor tends to be VERY long winded at times, as in an hour or more of just preaching, and that is after we already sat for music, announcements, etc. He is a good preacher, but even the most interesting, anointed, informative message can become not so interesting if it goes on too long. People tend to get physically uncomfortable, and we lowly humans can only absorb so much information before our minds tend to wander.
By the time church is over on Sunday morning, I'm not interested in going back that evening. Also, as some others have said, even though I'm an extrovert, I feel a bit "overloaded" at church with all the hugging and carrying on. Even extroverts need space. I really need some quiet time to connect with God.
Our pastor does believe you should be at church when he is preaching, or at least that's what he has lead me to believe. I had actually made up my mind to do what helps me the most in my walk with God and not feel guilty about not attending any services I don't want to. This thread has helped me reaffirm what I already knew.
And now you are all two cents richer.